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Winning With People Weekly Tip: It Starts With You

Hey, I am Tom and I have a big idea to share. If you want really win and build strong relationships with other people, you must first win with you!

Here is what I mean. 

Some of you may know the story of Chuck Wepner, the “Bayonne Bleeder’ he was referred to. Wepner, was the struggling boxer who famously almost took Muhammad Ali (The Champ) the distance on March 24, 1975. Wepner is also is the motivation behind the Rocky stories written by struggling writer at the time, Sylvester Stallone. The story goes Stallone was offered over $400,000 for the rights to the screenplay, a great deal of money in the mid 70’s. He turned the money down for $20,000 and agreement that he would play the role of Rocky at actors minimum wages ($340 a week). For the rights to the story, Wepner was offered $70,000 or 1% of the overall movie’s gross profits. Wanting a guarantee payday, he took the $70,000 costing him over $8 million dollars. Stallone, as you know, became one of the most recognized actors in the world and over 40 years later Rocky films have grossed over $1.6 billion dollars world wide. 

It’s easy to second guess Wepner now, but most of us settle for less every day. Dr. Bruce Lipton, an internationally recognized leader in bridging science and spirit, notes that we spend up to 95% of our day reacting to life based on our internal programming.

You see, your beliefs drive your behavior.

Your behavior drives your actions.

Your actions drive your results.

If you are not getting the results you desire, you have to stop and ask yourself, why am I making these decisions? How are my current actions, based on my beliefs, serving me?

For close to two decades I struggled with being a strong person of character. I thought being successful and happy was about receiving accolades and degrees, about being in a place or position others looked up to or might want to be in one day. Most of this was to mask the real me, seeking the approval of others or just trying to convince myself that I was a good person. I, like Chuck Wepner, and maybe many of you, struggle with belief in my own value. 

When you look in the mirror, who is it that you see? Are you the person you want people to see? If you want to win with other people you first must make sure you are winning with you. Your relationships with others can only be as healthy as you are (physically and mentally). Never sell yourself short. Who you are is the greatest asset you will ever possess. 

Your “Winning With People” Call to Action (John Maxwell)

  • Forget about: Whatever makes you insecure. 
  • Ask: How you can increase your value in order to benefit others rather than just yourself. 
  • List the Things: You can improve about yourself (bad habits to break) along with specific steps to take to make improvements. 
  • Remember: Your relationships will only be as healthy as you are. 

I believe in you. I believe in your dream. 


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